Hey Phoenix Men, thank you for letting me tell my story, my name is Freddie. My wife and I decided to split up in April, since then the ex-wife to be has dragged her feet over mediation, postponing it from September to January, which indicates to me that she doesn’t want it to happen.
She uses emotional blackmail against me all the time, she paints my future life alone as bleak, lonely and penniless but says she and the two kids will be having a whale of a time. She tells me that the kids will be “devastated” if they don’t get six days at their grandparents this Christmas instead of the three days I propose. She tells me the kids are “desperate” for a particular new toy and if they don’t get these things then “I” will have to explain it to them why. When she uses the children as a weapon in this way, I find it difficult not to give in to her demands. There are many more instances where she has used the children against me, too numerous to list.
She has not once confided in her mother or sister who have both gone through divorces or anyone else for that matter. I’m sure either her mother or sister would offer her the support she needs. It must be difficult for her going through this alone, I still care about her well-being even though we are separated. I have been considering a quiet word in her sister’s ear in the hope that it would bring things out into the open and hopefully stop her weaponizing the children against me by injecting a bit of reality into the situation.
What I am asking is, do you guys think if she had someone to confide in and support her, would she be less inclined to use these blackmail type tactics against me? I would really appreciate any comments or advice from others that have been through a similar situation and came out the other end, as I am at my wits end with this whole situation, thank you in advance.