Hi, my name is Eric, I am new to all this and my emotions are still raw. Reading through the posts, I am glad that I found this site.
My wife and I have been together seven years and married for five. We have two kids of 18 months and 4 years and I found out this time last week that she had been having an affair with a guy that she worked with.
I knew it was coming as all the signs were there, but I choose to believe her when she said nothing was going on as I loved her and wanted it to work for the sake of the kids. She has told me that I’ve been a nightmare to live with, and I guess we may have been heading for separation anyway.
I spent the week away at a friends house and went back to see my kids over the weekend. It was an absolute nightmare as she would not stop begging me to come home, so for the kid’s sake I went back to her. All I really ever wanted was my old life back. I now know that it’s not possible after spending two days in her company. It’s like a living nightmare. It’s only the kids that make me want to work at this, but if I am unhappy, is it really worth it?
I know if I walk away from her, she will make the whole break up a mess and be nasty and be as hard on me as she can. I am afraid of the repercussions if I say to her, I want a divorce. We are going to counselling tomorrow. Have any of you guys been before? Does it work or not? Can anyone tell me what the process like? Any advice you guys can give would be really appreciated. Thank you for listening to my story.