My Story – By Finn:
My wife of 10 years (have been together 15) has just recently left me, announcing that she needed some space and her own freedom (who doesn’t) she swore there was nobody else. She keeps lying to me. She had an affair 2 years ago and it totally devastated me. We managed to get back together and were doing really well, then a similar pattern started to emerge, i asked her if everything was OK, she kept repeating that there was nothing wrong and she loved me, she would never hurt me again or the children. She recently started going out and acting like a teenager, coming in at three in the morning, or not at all, and became very angry if i asked her where she was or what she was doing.
She believed that i should not be asking her what she was doing, she had said that he did not feel the need to show me affection any more. Since she has left i have found out that she has a 22 year old boyfriend who she says she has just met (she only moved out a week ago) every day i have to prize a bit more information out of her and can tell that she has been lying through her teeth. She wants us to be friends for the children’s sake and if I’m friendly and do as she asks, i can stay in the house otherwise if i try to fleece her she says i will end up homeless. I do work but cant afford to pay everything. She is being so heartless, she knows what i went through before and says she is not doing it on purpose. She says she loves me and cares for me but our marriage is over. She wants me to divorce her as it is cheaper and says i cant divorce her for adultery as i would not be able to prove it. I am so lonely, hurt and angry and don’t know what to do for the best.
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