Good day Phoenix Men, I know this may seem like a silly question but is it wrong to stay married and together just for the sake of the children? I am in such a mess right now, I don’t know what to do? Nine months ago, I left my wife after she told me she did not love me any more.
I lost all my self respect and begged her to take me back, which she eventually did.We went to counseling to try and get things back to some kind of normality, and for a while things seemed to be much better between us.
The other night for no apparent reason she started an argument and all the things I wish I’d said to her over the years came out, and my words were not nice. This time I have refused to move out of the family home, as I simply can not afford to move elsewhere.
My dilemma is that when I think of us divorcing, I think of the children and it’s breaking my heart. I love my wife still even though yet again she tells me she does not love me. I want things to be great again, if not for me, then for my children’s sake.
Am I doing the right thing by wishing and praying for a successful outcome? When deep down I know it’s all over?
Sorry for being so confused and rambling on, but I have a problem with bottling things up and everything has gone too far now. One minute my mind is made up, then the next I am almost suicidal, although I know I would never do anything stupid to harm myself as I know I need to be here for my children.
Just sitting here wishing and praying for things to be normal is sending me crazy and my emotions are all over the place, I am constantly up and down and nothing makes sense anymore! Anyway, thanks for hearing me out and allowing me to get things off my chest. If you can offer any words of wisdom please do, thank you in advance, Eric