My Loneliness Story – By PB:
I have been lonely for a while now, and I think it’s fair to say that I have finally gotten it all figured out. So you might ask why are we lonely, even if we´re blessed with family and friends? Even if we are free from all cares in the world, And even if we long for all of that we cannot and then finally attain it. The answer is not far from the fact that all those material things and achievements are irrelevant because loneliness is our own and it is in an essence of who we are.
He or she that is an individual, with the smallest hint of an owned personality or uniqueness is DOOMED to be lonely. This is because NO ONE can claim that they really understand what it is like to be that person for an entire lifetime. And you know what, we all have our own personalities and uniqueness by simply being unique individuals, hence loneliness is a burden we must all carry.
The idiosyncrasy of every man subjects him to loneliness because as an individual you differ from every other person in the world. No one can truly relate to you on a personal level, and no one can truly satisfy all your needs. Thus it is a choice we make to believe if someone else is truly sympathetic; a choice of faith in that person. But logically they cannot because they are not us.
Then you wonder, why do we need people when they can’t solve our problem of loneliness and keep us forever happy? Even when they make an effort, a lot of factors can come in to ruin everything. We might take them for granted, they might get suffocated by our neediness, and the cold hands of death might claim their lives. So embrace your loneliness, even if it hurts, and dare to cherish it, because it is who you are.
I’m so happy I found this website. Finally I can find solace in other people’s story, knowing that I’m not alone in this struggle. Some people have it way worse than I do and this even makes me more thankful to God because it could have been worse. On the other hand, even though I feel good knowing I don’t face all this alone, of what good is a support group if doesn’t make you feel better or helps you overcome a challenge? I think we all have to find a way to overcome our loneliness because it makes no sense if we derive all the benefit and support on this platform, and still die of depression.
So these days I try to find a balance in everything in life. Unlike before, I try as much as possible not to allow trivial things and disappointments affect me. There are days I’m happy and there are also days when I’m really down. On days when I feel down and lonely, I just consider my present situation as a phase and a natural phenomenon that I will get over, or what better way can a person overcome loneliness?
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