1.You’re at a party and catch the eye of a very attractive woman across the room, she locks eyes with you briefly, then looks away, and seconds later catches your gaze again. This means:
a) You’re not interesting enough to catch her full attention, so why dwell?
b) She’s bored and looking for someone to buy her a drink.
c) She’s giving you one of the international female signs of flirting and you need to casually find a way to get across the room to her and introduce yourself.
2. If you brought a date home to have a drink or watch a movie this weekend she’d find (Choose 2):
a) A bathroom she’d be afraid to use and no toilet paper.
b) A decently stocked fridge. You can offer her not only something to drink but eat as well – you’ve learned well this gets you big brownie points with women.
c) A place that looks like it’s inhabited by high school boys obsessed with fast food and Gameboy.
d) A comfortable home, perhaps not fancy, but clean enough that you don’t feel embarrassed to show it to a woman (and this includes your mother).
3. On a first date it’s important to:
a) Impress the woman as much as possible with what you’ve got going on in your life.
b) Make sure to engage her in conversation, not talk at her. Ask her questions that will get her to open up so you’ll be able to see if you have interests and beliefs in common.
c) Lay out your past life like an open book, even the unsavory bits. After all, honesty is the best policy.
4. Your idea of a great way to introduce yourself to a woman online at an Internet dating site is to:
a) Send a very brief note, a positive comment about something in her profile, and/or interests you have in common and ask her to drop you a line in return if she likes your profile as well.
b) Sending a short note that you find her interesting and attractive and she should give you a call tonight (you include your phone number).
c) Lay out for her in writing just why you’re such a great catch, the job you have, the car you drive, and the type of extravagant dates you’d like to take her on. Women want a successful man and this will impress her.
d) Remark negatively about something in her profile, it’s best to knock a little of the wind out of an attractive woman’s sails – she’ll be intrigued that you’re not fawning all over her.
5. If you’re too shy to come right out and ask a woman you’re interested in out on a date, the best way to work up to it and find out if she’s interested, or to even build interest, is:
a) To become pals and spend as much time around her as possible. Be useful, buy her nice little thoughtful gifts, and make sure she knows you’re there for her.
b) Have one of your guy friends ask one of her girl friends if you have any chance at all.
c) Get to know her slowly, show your interest by asking her about herself and finding common interests, but be a bit mysterious and careful not to slide into the buddy role.
6. You’re showing the world just how ready you are to meet the right woman by (Choose 2):
a) Working six days and sixty plus hours a week, time is money and this is your time to make it. Someday soon a woman will appreciate all you have to offer.
b) Getting out at least once weekly to a local hang out where you feel comfortable, enjoy the scene, and like the look of the women.
c) Spending your evenings on the couch, waiting for that attractive woman down the hall to return the hammer you loaned her a month ago.
d) Joining organizations or taking evening classes that both focus on your interests and put you in contact with local single women.
7. You’ve finally put a profile up at an online dating site. You have a good feeling about it because (Choose 2):
a) You took a very casual approach to the whole thing. The pick you posted is very laid back showing you with your posse hanging out at a local hot spot.
b) You took your time to answer thoughtfully and posted a recent photo that shows you off to your best.
c) You took the time to study the women’s profiles and found that there were several women in your area who you found very attractive and interesting before actually joining the service.
8. You’ve met a woman at a club or online and have agreed to get together. The perfect first date to see if something sparks is:
a) Seeing your favorite band, or the latest action adventure movie.
b) Meeting for coffee, a drink, or even lunch someplace where the woman will feel comfortable meeting a stranger, and neither of you will feel too put out if you just don’t gel.
c) A romantic dinner at one of the nicest restaurants in town. It’s important to impress women.
9. When out at a popular hot spot the best way to meet the women who catch your eye is to:
a) Find out from the bar tender what she’s drinking and send her another drink with your compliments.
b) Cut in on her dancing with her girlfriends on the dance floor and show her your best moves as up close as possible.
c) Catch her eye a few times, if she looks away and then back you know she’s interested so you go up and introduce yourself and ask her to dance.
10. When meeting women online to date it’s important to:
a) Meet fairly soon after beginning to chat as human’s have the habit of projecting an “ideal” of someone and it’s easy to build up unrealistic expectations that neither of you can live up to.
b) Spend a long time online and on the phone talking about your hopes and dreams so that you’ll have a great foundation built by the time you actually meet.
c) Be totally honest about your past romantic and sexual encounters (the good and the bad) right off the bat so she knows what she’s dealing with – after all – we all have baggage.
11. When you see a lone woman who catches your eye on the street or at a bar the best thing to do is:
a) Forget approaching her, she’ll only think you’re a psycho.
b) Approach her boldly and tell her she’d make your day if she’d give you her phone number and go out with you this weekend.
c) Mention something about something she’s wearing, or reading, or watching as an opening into talking with her. If possible make her laugh and then be honest – tell her you’d love the opportunity to get to know her better and ask for her telephone number.
12. The truth about dating is (Choose 2):
a) A numbers game, you’ve got to get out there and make the effort in order to meet women you really click with.
b) A total crap-shoot, with very slim chances of actually meeting a truly great woman.
c) Something you’ve just got to put up with to find “the one.”
d) A great opportunity to get to know yourself and what you want in a relationship.
13. It’s important to remember when interested in a really sexy attractive woman to:
a) Make sure you’re very clear about your sexual attraction to her, after all, that’s what she wants.
b) Play it a bit cool, keep your pants zipped and your mouth from drooling while you get to know her and establish rapport.
c) Buddy your way into her life so she knows she can trust you first as a friend before you ask her out on a date.
14. When dating a new woman it’s important to:
a) Shower her with attention and romantic gifts, after all it took awhile to find her and you don’t want to lose her from inattention.
b) Spend as much time with her as possible so you can get to know her really well.
c) Keep her on her toes with a few head games.
d) Do what you say you’re going to do, call when you say you’ll call, but don’t overwhelm her (or yourself) by spending too much time with her right away.
15. You can find interesting, attractive, single women:
a) Only in the hot spots like the hippest clubs and bars.
b) At sporting events.
c) Almost anywhere if you’re willing to open your eyes and look.
d) Actually they’re a very rare commodity.
Answers: 1=C, 2=B & D, 3=B, 4=A, 5=C, 6=B & D, 7=B & C, 8=B, 9=C, 10=A, 11=C, 12=A & D, 13=B, 14=D, 15=C
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