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How should a man prepare for divorce?

Looks like I am headed for a divorce and a bitter one at that. The short of it is I caught my wife having an affair with a guy from her office. Apparently it has been going on for over 5 damn years, it all came out during a night out. She has already moved out and instructed her lawyers who are wanting an arm and a leg from me. I myself have not yet instructed a lawyer as yet I am trying to research as much as I can before hiring a legal team.

From what I have read it seems the easiest thing to do is just give her what she is entitled to otherwise the divorce lawyers will drag it on forever and charge me a fortune. Anyone been through this before? A little advice on how to prepare for the coming divorce would be greatly appreciated.

Submitted By Martin

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2 thoughts on “How should a man prepare for divorce?”

  1. Hey Martin. I know how it feels to be scarred by the one you love, a betrayal that you never saw coming. It hurts a lot when divorce happens. Especially when it wasn’t even your damn fault. Sadly, the current justice system favours the female folks.

    The first step is to secure your financial separation by freezing any joint account if you have any and securing at least half of the balance before she can financially wipe you clean. The second most important thing to do is to change your passwords. Your devices/social media accounts can be used to create false stories if hacked. It’s imperative for you to learn the divorce laws of your land so you can gear up for what is to come. This is also not the time to put a stranglehold on your most prized possession.

    I know how it hurts to lose assets that you worked your ass for but in order to scale through, you must be prepared to let some things go. This way, you get to settle quickly out of divorce than being dragged unnecessarily for a long period by lawyers whose aim is to have sunk a gaping hole in your wallet. More importantly, you need to accept that the marriage has ended and move on with your life

  2. There’s no doubt love messes up our logical thinking. This was my case some years back. I kept allowing an unfaithful wife to screw up my mind. It was a toxic relationship and I kept on forgiving her, overlooking her excesses while blaming myself. It wasn’t until I realized that life is a manifestation of our conscious efforts and thoughts, that everything changed for the better for me.

    Thus, you need to be intentional about moving on, come to terms with why the relationship ended, and accept that it did. Chances are that she was probably cheating with that same guy during the course of the marriage. So why inflict yourself with pain over someone that was never truly yours? I’ll advise you remove everything and stop doing things that remind you of her.

    Have a positive change in lifestyle and do more stuff that makes you happy. You also need to get back into the dating scene and build your self-esteem back. You can do better than this and you can get a better woman.


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