My Story – By Daryl:
I split up with my girlfriend of six years back in May. I was very fond of her and we had so much in common but over the years I always had doubts about whether she was the one, whether I fully trusted her, whether I fancied her enough, and indeed whether I loved her. Basically I could not commit to her so over those years we never moved in together. It came to a head this year when I was buying a flat which we were both to live in, but because I still had these doubts and worries, I finished the relationship, without I feel now really giving it a go.
My girl friend moved 300 miles away nearer to her parents, in fact I moved her down there. Within a week she met someone else and within two she was living with him. This all happened so quickly that by the time I had started to miss her, it was too late. I realize now how much she means to me and that I do love her & I think about her from the moment I wake until the moment i go to bed and I am constantly beating myself up about how stupid I was to push her away.
I feel the reasons I finished with her were shallow and stupid and I can see now how much the good far out weighed the bad. We are still in contact and I have asked her many times to come back and give us another chance. Until recently she said she did not know what to do but when I pushed her on the subject last week she decided to stay with what she has now, though she still wants to keep in touch, and admits she may be making a big mistake. Everyone tells me I need to let her go, but I cannot accept that she has gone and I do not think I will ever get over the fact that I caused the whole situation.
This has been going on for 2.5 months now in which time I have been very depressed, anxious and desperate. Its hard to concentrate on anything else including work and my sleeping has been bad. I do not know what to do, if in fact there is anything I can do. I cannot see a future without her. I cannot keep begging her to come back ( I am still waiting for flat purchase to complete before I even have anywhere to live to offer her) as I do not want to drive her further away. I know I need to give her some space, but is there any hope?
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