My Divorce Story – By Arty P:
There’s a girl I met in my days at the University. I would say she was pretty out of my league but miraculously I won her heart, with persistence of course. Dating her was magical, it seemed like a fairy tale. Then after graduation, we were still rocking the boat despite being in different states. After a while, she suggested we get an apartment and move in together, which we did. I couldn’t stay afloat in the labour market by not quickly getting a good job and she was supportive despite that. After a while, she got hired at a top firm and imagine how joyous we were, little did I know that the bad times were on the way.
I’m not lazy and it wasn’t as if I never saw job opportunities. I just had high expectations. I stayed at home and did all the house work and cooking whilst still looking for a job. It was all good for the first few months till her behaviour started to change and the late nights started. At first, I thought it was the stress attached to the demands of a top job and I kept my cool. She usually called to inform me if she wasn’t going to return home early, but after some time, she stopped calling to inform me of potential late nights at work and I got angry every time.
Our loving relationship turned sour and I never saw it coming. I’m not the type to snoop around my partner’s phone just to see what she has been up to. But one day, she left for work and forgot her phone at home. My girlfriend and I bought the same phone, just as a symbol of love. So, I saw the phone beeping after watching a movie on the couch. Innocently I took the phone and swiped to see the notification. The first thing I saw was a nude picture of my girlfriend, it was sent to someone on her messenger app. I was petrified and heartbroken. This was someone I loved so much, someone I could die for. Only to be betrayed with all the years invested. But I wasn’t going to lose my relationship easily as I was determined to make it work. So, I confronted her, to my dismay she denied the allegation that she was cheating, gave some silly unfathomable excuses that I can’t even remember. Yet, I loved her too much to break up with her.
I never for once made advances to any other woman while we were dating, I felt fate had dealt me a bad hand and my unemployed status made it worse. She kept using it as a point of reference to shatter my ego as a man. I tried to reason from her point of view and made up mind that I would get a job.
During the period I was out job hunting, my girlfriend and I were just basically roommates. We were just tolerating each other and the once amazing sex was gone. We hadn’t had sex in weeks and she kept complaining of stress at work even though I knew she was lying. Call me an insecure man, I won’t mind! After that first cheating incident, I kept prying into her phone whenever she wasn’t around. I knew she was cheating and who she was cheating with but somehow, I kept mum and still tried to make the relationship work because I loved her and had a forgiving heart.
Later, my girlfriend broke up with me and moved in with the guy she was cheating with. Words couldn’t describe the pain I felt. I cried for days and I’m still yet to get over it. Even though I have a good job now and I’m making progress on moving on, the pain still lingers. I doubt if I’ll ever trust any woman or be interested in a relationship. I’m deeply hurt.
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