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60 year old senior man and lonely as hell

My Story – By J Shelby:

Hey Guys hopefully someone out there can help me out a little.

Feeling really down and have been for the last five years since the loss of my wife through breast cancer. I am a 60 year old man living alone and unbelievably lonely.

I never ever thought this would happen to me, I have read about loneliness in the past when I was younger and never gave it a second thought but now I am living it. The worst part is the boredom during the day and then lying alone in bed at night my mind goes into overdrive.

I miss my wife and know she would want me to move on. I am not looking for sex I am just looking for companionship, someone to hug and go on walks with. I have looked at dating sites and do not feel it is the way to go for me anyway.

Well thank you for hearing me out and take care.

Peter Shelby in USA

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2 thoughts on “60 year old senior man and lonely as hell”

  1. We live in a world that celebrates self reliance and it’s truly killing us. Did you have children out of the marriage? Or best, do you have grandchildren? Break out from the western culture norm and reach out to them.

    Make plans to visit them and spend time with them. Doing this will really make you happy. As regards boredom, you need to fill up your schedule with interesting and healthy activities. You’re sixty and still physically active and healthy.

    Don’t waste away in loneliness and depression. You can rediscover yourself and find love in new things and activities. No woman wants a boring old guy. Not even the elderly women that move around with walkers. And you would think they shouldn’t be choosy right? The truth is that you need to have something good going on for yourself for you to attract good women.

    So, focus on yourself first, make yourself happy and try to make your life interesting. Do this, and it won’t take long for the woman of right age and perfect heart to locate you and fall in love with you. And this will be because the positive aura around you is irresistible.

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    • I am responding to the “ 60 yr old man & lonely as hell.” Being/getting older can be a challenge when seeking companionship and/or close friendships. It is a long process. I appreciate & understand your sentiments. I am also lonely. I had the privilege of an amazing profession, I was a remarkable Mother. That all changed. Grief has become a close friend; sometimes the only partner I have. As the gentleman eloquently articulated… take care of yourself, exercise, basically distract yourself w/healthy diversions. I have done this & continue, yet I experience great loneliness. I stay busy, engaged w/many activities. Yet I am lonely. I seek the serenity of a companion, good, playful conversation & friendship. I miss all of this. We all need this… to be engaged w/life, each other. People may seek a potential partner which is ‘ whole’ healthy in all ways, many females can be incredibly compassionate to another’s sorrow, their anguish. That said, they do want a partner who is not weighed by “ baggage” ready for a relationship, ready to commit to her. Someone she can share the moon & stars. I suspect we all search for this, I am searching, searching for what I believe to be simple; a kind & charitable character, compassionate, patient, a good communicator. I believe this is simple, basic yet this has been difficult to find. I appreciate the comments, all are valid. If only there was an equation, a recipe to add joy, to add happiness. Thank you for listening. Grace in St. Louis.

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